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The Great Pause of Menopause

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by Oceana LaBlanc

Many of us who are in menopause now were mothered by women who didn’t talk about or understand it, and were often at the effect of a masculine paradigm and medical system. Most were not wild women, who questioned authority or celebrating their menses.

I was especially clueless. It started with peri-menopause, which I hadn’t even heard of before. I just knew I needed help because suddenly my emotions were riding a tornado without a seat belt. In fact, I almost hospitalized myself, mistaking it for bipolar. Look up the symptoms of both side by side. Identical, uncanny, and misunderstood.

Luckily, a sister shared her journey and discoveries with me. She shared nutritional tips and much information I had never heard. This was my entry into learning, and I was vested with ways to cope, wisdom to carry me through, and knowledge that what I was experiencing was perfectly normal.

Peri-menopause can be a ten year journey with changing symptomology. As wise women, we can dive deeper into the layers of energetics sourcing the symptoms, read the signs, utilize all manner of feminine alchemy to shape shift and shine. We have choices, herbs, holistic awareness, abdominal massage, shamanic support, and the allopathic medical system to choose from.

We might face:

  • grieving the end of fertility
  • loss of libido
  • body is changing dramatically
  • night sweats
  • anxiety attacks
  • sleeplessness
  • moontime totally off schedule
  • extreme uncertainty
  • grieving unmet life desires, lost opportunities
  • loss of energy for what used to come easily

Menopause leaves no patience or tolerance for wasted time or energy. A friend said to me she couldn’t understand why she was so short with everyone lately. The mention of menopause was a complete surprise and relief. We really aren’t taught what to expect!

The fragility of it is stunning. We forget the simplest things and our younger sisters cannot fathom what seems like an intended slight. The truth is we have no recollection.

As a sex educator, it’s difficult to find oneself utterly shut down and going within. But this is what one does and it’s important work, much like labor in birthing.

Many women just don’t want sex and are afraid they never will again. The good news is that menopause is a Great Pause. There are ways to encourage libido, stay juicy, continue to glow. Orgasms are pretty much the best remedy and proactive nutrition, as they keep us expanded in pleasure, keep the blood flowing, reduce stress, encourage circulation, and activate the life force energy. Orgasms keep us glowing. One a day, just like the multivitamin.

Sexuality is alive and well throughout our lifetimes, regardless of what mass media would have us believe. Once you have passed the gateway of menopause, you can let go of the idealized version of sex appeal and welcome a confident, deliciously vulnerable, grace-filled queen who is comfortable in her skin. She exudes warm, calm acceptance and her wisdom is seductively attractive. A Crone is a Confident, Radiant, Orgasmic, Natural Empress.

barAre you longing to deepen your femininity, 

show up in your own blend of Goddess Confidence

and ooze your sensuality inside and out?

 

Oceana Lablanc will nurture you into the sexy, beautiful,

powerful woman you are ready to step into. 

are-you-ready

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About the Author

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Leblanc is a healer, tantric yogini, medium, shaman, and empowerment facilitator. A dynamic facilitator and writer gifted with wisdom, compassion, humor, and keen intuition, she holds frequent workshops and retreats.

She’s led acclaimed trainings at venues such as the Women’s Belly and Womb Conference, Daughters of the Earth Conference, Zestfest, University of Massachusetts Medical School, and Earthcircle Gathering. She is one of the original pioneers building a uniquely grassroots community that supports women’s empowerment globally.

Goddess Oceana defines her mission as being a catalyst for unconditional love and the integration of balance in feminine and masculine energies on the planet in our times. She is passionate about helping people express their highest potential.

Currently she is writing her first book, which is a compilation of her online quotes that have been inspiring readers for years. When she’s not travelling and teaching, her most rewarding time is spent with her gorgeous 13 year old son and beloved husband of 21 years.

“Oceana is one of the most dynamic presenters I have known. She comes from her heart, her passion, and her wisdom. A unique fantastic blend that all will benefit from.” ~Char Tosi, founder of Woman Within

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Sensuality, Pleasure, and A Woman’s Spiritual Fire

sexby Oceana LeBlanc

We don’t hear that much about sensuality or pleasure in the Red Tent Temple. Much of what is spoken is about suffering that women are processing as they heal past wounds and deal with what it is to be a woman in this world. In my work I’ve learned that pleasure is crucial for women, that it’s the gateway to good, gratitude, abundance, love, joy and full self-expression.

Releasing our full radiance and power isn’t possible when we stuff down our passion and fire, and sit on the life force energy that lives in our bellies. When we allow pleasure to infuse us, we unleash the fullness of all that we are, and we’re capable of infinite possibilities, and immeasurable magic!

The top questions I hear are about sex over fifty, lack of desire, and how to attract a lover. Women tell me they either want more sex or less sex than their partners. They fear the loss of libido, or wonder what happened to theirs or if they will ever get it back. Some are just beside themselves trying to find the right partner. Sensuality, intimacy and pleasure are absolutely crucial in the response to all of these queries, but they’re glaringly absent in most people’s vocabulary. Why is this?

Our culture gives pleasure a very bad rap. We’re taught it’s frivolous, to deny it, that it can wait until the work is done. We’ve erased pleasure from our landscape and diminished it to the realm of indulgence, which inherently means unnecessary. The truth is that it’s so crucial to a woman’s life essence and fulfillment that it’s no wonder it was relegated to the back seat. What is necessary for women hasn’t been on the forefront of our radar for 5,000 years! It’s time to change this. Pleasure requires a vulnerable intimacy with life, as does sensuality. They are inextricably interwoven, and our engagement with them is what’s missing for most of us.

So how do we begin? Start by relieving stress so that you feel sexier, or have more sex to relax. Really, you can find pleasure everywhere if you’re looking for it. A gentle breeze, the feel of ice cream on your tongue, a flower in bloom…millions of opportunities for pleasure present themselves every day. Self-pleasure is the surest way to immediate pleasure, and it makes one a much better lover, too.

Intimacy is rooted in vulnerability, which is what we all secretly desire. It’s what cradles us in community, gives us a deep feeling of belonging, and nurtures our spirits. Learning to truly meet someone’s eyes, we begin to allow others in and release judgment. Replacing self-recrimination with self-love, we heal our connections from the inside out, learning to connect on deeper levels. We’re opened up to a more relaxed sensuality where our inhibitions fall away and we’re more fully present, open to pleasure and deeply connected with others.

When we embrace sensual pleasure, our life force is unbound and our power to create the magic we desire is limitless. This is the secret about women that has been hidden and squashed for so long. We are absolutely divinely embodied creatures whose time to shine has finally come.

 

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Are you longing to deepen your femininity, 

show up in your own blend of Goddess Confidence

and ooze your sensuality inside and out?

 

Oceana Lablanc will nurture you into the sexy, beautiful,

powerful woman you are ready to step into. 

are-you-ready

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About the Author

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Leblanc is a healer, tantric yogini, medium, shaman, and empowerment facilitator. A dynamic facilitator and writer gifted with wisdom, compassion, humor, and keen intuition, she holds frequent workshops and retreats.

She’s led acclaimed trainings at venues such as the Women’s Belly and Womb Conference, Daughters of the Earth Conference, Zestfest, University of Massachusetts Medical School, and Earthcircle Gathering. She is one of the original pioneers building a uniquely grassroots community that supports women’s empowerment globally.

Goddess Oceana defines her mission as being a catalyst for unconditional love and the integration of balance in feminine and masculine energies on the planet in our times. She is passionate about helping people express their highest potential.

Currently she is writing her first book, which is a compilation of her online quotes that have been inspiring readers for years. When she’s not travelling and teaching, her most rewarding time is spent with her gorgeous 13 year old son and beloved husband of 21 years.

“Oceana is one of the most dynamic presenters I have known. She comes from her heart, her passion, and her wisdom. A unique fantastic blend that all will benefit from.” ~Char Tosi, founder of Woman Within

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A Woman’s Immense Power

sexby Oceana Leblanc

When you invite pleasure into your daily life, it’s a game changer. The feminine requires it, is opened to a greater alchemy, and begins to align with the synchronicity of creation in surprising ways. All of life celebrates the unfoldment of a woman’s pleasure. We were built for it as reflections of a great feminine force whose ignition is our pleasure as the ritual of our erotic essence.

I know this is a mouthful! Allow me to break it down for you. We have an organ whose sole purpose is pleasure, our clitoris. We reflect the aspect of Divinity (Life Force Energy) that is feminine, called Shakti. We’re awakening to our liberation after 5,000 years of oppression on this planet because our power was so deeply feared. The connection of women to their ignition switch, pleasure, is so down-played and disdained in the collective psyche that we’ve been missing it completely.

What you might notice on the path of pleasure is that most major patriarchal religions teach that pleasure is a no-no. Remember that men wrote the scripts on these religions. We’re warned that pleasure is a base, lower energy, superfluous engagement that will steer us away from our high spiritual aspirations. I imagine that a culture that has experienced the sweet, erotic power of a woman’s pleasure and been hypnotized thoroughly by it would have no other choice in overcoming it than forbidding it’s existence. How else would it aspire to overpower or control such a colossal force?

Men have fought wars over it, climbed mountains because of it, given their lives for it, cut off their own ears about it. It seduces them into all manner of compliance, regardless of their initial intentions. It is a power so magnificent, so breathtakingly divine, that it had to be oppressed to be controlled. This, women, is my take on why women have been so utterly crushed into submission for thousands of years.

I urge women to fall in love with themselves and their bodies. The feminine form is a gorgeous manifestation of the feminine life force, and when we can truly appreciate this and love ourselves fully and deeply, we elicit the same response from others. We also begin to tap into our pleasure, uncorking waves of energetic gratitude, and once that is pulsating in orgasmic ecstasy, we have a wide open channel upon which to place our desires in the universal take out window.

We are the embodiment, the living Goddess, walking the earth, and when we realize the tremendous power and gravity of our potential, we will no longer have to fight for our liberation. We’ll see with clear eyes and pure hearts the path that lay before us, one of equanimity, peace, joy, and yes, pleasure.

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Are you longing to deepen your femininity, 

show up in your own blend of Goddess Confidence

and ooze your sensuality inside and out?

 

Oceana Lablanc will nurture you into the sexy, beautiful,

powerful woman you are ready to step into. 

are-you-ready

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About the Author

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Leblanc is a healer, tantric yogini, medium, shaman, and empowerment facilitator. A dynamic facilitator and writer gifted with wisdom, compassion, humor, and keen intuition, she holds frequent workshops and retreats.

She’s led acclaimed trainings at venues such as the Women’s Belly and Womb Conference, Daughters of the Earth Conference, Zestfest, University of Massachusetts Medical School, and Earthcircle Gathering. She is one of the original pioneers building a uniquely grassroots community that supports women’s empowerment globally.

Goddess Oceana defines her mission as being a catalyst for unconditional love and the integration of balance in feminine and masculine energies on the planet in our times. She is passionate about helping people express their highest potential.

Currently she is writing her first book, which is a compilation of her online quotes that have been inspiring readers for years. When she’s not travelling and teaching, her most rewarding time is spent with her gorgeous 13 year old son and beloved husband of 21 years.

“Oceana is one of the most dynamic presenters I have known. She comes from her heart, her passion, and her wisdom. A unique fantastic blend that all will benefit from.” ~Char Tosi, founder of Woman Within

 

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