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Herbs for Your Reproductive Tract

by Paula Youmell, RN

Herbs are amazing, healing tools because herbs are whole foods.  Whole foods nourish each and every cell in your body. 

Whole food eating means feeding our bodies the way nature intended.  This means eating foods in their natural state, as close to the perfectly “whole” state in which nature provides them.  This also means following the natural growing seasons and eating more foods that are locally grown and produced, in season. Whole food nutrition is eating in balance, which in turn keeps the body in balance.  Foods grown naturally develop with the right proportion of carbohydrates, proteins, and fats intended for that particular food.  They contain balanced vitamins, minerals, phyto-nutrients, and enzymes. This natural balance for each food ensures that the body can properly utilize the nutrients. 

The effects of moving away from our whole food diet and eating a refined, processed, and convenience food diet are very prevalent in our society.  (Ask me for my educational handout titled Whole Food Eating for an easy introduction to healing body cells with whole food nutrition, pyoumell@gmail.com)

One of the biggest tragedies of human civilization is the precedents of chemical therapy over nutrition.  It is substitution of artificial therapy over natural, of poison over food, in which we are feeding people poisons trying to correct the reactions of starvation.    Dr. Royal Lee

As a culture, we have created the same scenario with our healing medicines, including those for healing the female body.  We have moved away from whole, natural medicines to the processed, refined, factory made pharmaceuticals that upset balance in the human body.  Just as refined, factory made food products upset the body’s natural balance.

Herbs, whether ingested as a medicinal infusion, taken as a tincture or in any other form of herbal medicine, are whole foods.  The nutrients in the herbs: vitamins, minerals, phyto-nutrients, and the nutrients yet to be discovered, are utilized by the body cells to cleanse, nourish, and heal each and every body cell.  Herbs specific for the female reproductive tract are nourishing to the reproductive organ’s cells.

So often we get the message from main stream media and medicine:  Do NOT use herbs as they are potentially dangerous.  This is as crazy as saying that eating beets, apples, or any other natural, whole food is potentially dangerous.

When we eat a beet, an apple, some broccoli, or any whole food, our body digests and absorbs the nutrients in the whole food to nourish our cellular health.  The same process of digestion and assimilation of nutrients happens with herbs.  Herbs are whole food; herbs are healing medicine.

Herbs are plants (leaf, root, stems, bark, berries, seeds), like a beet or an apple, that have nutritional and healing properties with affinities for certain tissues.

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Herbs for female health are many and each has its own healing purpose.  Used in combination, they create powerful healing energy in the female body.

Some excellent female healing herbs are:

  • Stinging nettles
  • Red raspberry leaf
  • Wild yam
  • Chaste tree berry
  • Motherwort
  • Red clover flower
  • False unicorn root
  • Passion flower
  • Don quai root
  • Wild carrot
  • Ginger
  • Blue and Black cohosh
  • Squaw vine
  • Black haw
  • Yarrow
  • Pennyroyal
  • Mugwort
  • Partridge vine

These herbs balance female hormones, tone and heal the female organs, and add nutrients to every cell in your body.

A simple healing tea I used to make for my roommate, many years ago before I had become a certified herbalist, to ease her menstrual cramps:  chamomile tea with 30 drops of black or blue cohosh tincture.  When she moved into her own apartment, just up the street, she would call me every month and ask me to bring her a jar of this cramp relief tea.

For specifics on which herbs to use for your personal needs, contact an herbalist in your area.  In the Potsdam, NY area?  Give me a shout.

Herbs for healing other organs: (Just to remind you how amazing herbs really are!)

  • Saw palmetto for the prostate
  • Hawthorne berry for the heart
  • Rhubarb root for the colon
  • Milk thistle for the liver
  • Nettle as a general nutritive herb (Yes, I truly love nettles!)
  • Dandelion and burdock root for liver cleansing and nourishment

The list of herbs and the cells / organs they nourish goes on and on.  These are just a very few example of herbs and the cells / organ they have affinities to nourish and promote healing. This healing action happens because the herb adds whole food nutrition to your body cells.  This is the same thing a beet does; feeds your body cells.

Stinging nettles are my favorite herb!  Nettles are a power house of nutrition and healing energy for the whole body.  I add nettles to every combination herbal formula I create. Use nettles in your female healing remedies!

With that said, I recommend you read up on the herb you want to ingest for its nourishing, medicinal abilities.  Learn about the herb and its healing affinities before you make the decision to take it.  Contact your local herbalist for help in choosing the right herb or blend of herbs to add to your whole food dietary plan to promote personal health and healing.

Words from a happy client that demonstrates my point about herbs and whole body healing; that body cells are nourished by ingesting herbs:

Thanks Paula! The herbs you recommended for my peri-menopausal symptoms have really helped! No more migraines, moodiness, or horrible night sweats. After years of challenging health symptoms, I am very happy to be healing with whole foods, including female healing herbs.  Sherry B.

Herbs are whole foods.  Use them wisely for healing your female energy and whole body healing.  Blessings of health, Paula

Red clover flower and Red raspberry leave, combined with my favorite herb: Stinging nettles, are the three herbs I recommend for a fertility infusion to drink daily.

Paula Youmell is an RN, author, holistic healer, and blogger who thrives in northern NY State, USA.  Learn more about her healing lifestyle at www.HandsOnHealthHH.com, http://www.wholefoodhealer.com, or http://www.wisewomenredtent.com

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The Yoniverse Unknown: 3 Things That May Be A Surprise Between Your Thighs

By Dr. Felicia Clark

www.BodyShameBS.com

“Close your eyes and breathe into your yoni,” my instructor said. I thought: “crap, another yoga pose I don’t know.” I opened one eye to spy on what the other women were doing. But, they were just sitting on the floor with their legs crossed, breathing the normal way. So, then, what exactly is yoni breathing? First, I needed to learn what “yoni” meant. Here is what I found: yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina that loosely translates to mean ‘sacred space.’

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A whole universe opened to me when I learned that there were honorable names for that part of my body that had nothing to with a cat. How come I had never heard that term until my 30’s? I come from a motheFront cover cropped I Like Bodyr, father and grandmother who taught me to embrace my body without shame. In fact, when I reached puberty and was embarrassed about starting my cycle, my grandmother said: “girl, lift your leg up in front of the mirror and see what God gave you.” Yes, I was mortified. However, after decades of looking in the mirror at everything God gave me, I became comfortable with me from head to toe.

So then, over two decades after the lifted leg in the mirror thing, why did I still not know what God gave me? Here are 3 things that I was surprised to learn about that formerly feline named universe between my thighs that I call my ‘yoniverse.’

1. Yonic symbols are everywhere.

From rockets, to stick shifts, to hot dogs, men love to build things that remind them of their penis (i.e., phallic symbols). Little did I know that men also built things that were reminiscent of the vagina. These structures also had a name (i.e. yonic symbols). In fact, the church dome I sat under to learn that vaginas were an “off limits” dirty topic was full of yonic symbols, itself.

From cave openings, to river beds, to flower petals, yonic symbols are bold, colorful, and hard to miss. They occur naturally and man made in equal proportions to phallic symbols. So, how many women like me never noticed them until after age 35 – or never? Even as I type this, my spell check is telling me that “yonic” is not a word. However, it recognizes the word “phallic” with no problem. Here is a neat video that shows how both yonic and phallic symbols are represented in, fruit, religion, and nature.

2. The yoni has reflexology.

Marvin Gaye’s “sexual healing” was more than just a hit song. It was insight into the concept that sex can be healing. In current Western society, poorly informed by porn videos, we are taught that sex is for orgasms. Yet, 60 % of women aren’t having orgasms. Contrastingly, Chinese medicine has a whole school of genital reflexology whereby certain positions are ideal to stimulate nerve endings on the penis and vagina that heal organs or simply keep parts of the body healthy – with or without orgasm.

The reflexology of the vagina is exactly opposite of the penis. For example, a woman’s heart and lung stimulation points are directly below her cervix. While the heart and lung stimulation points of a man are on the tip of his penis. When a penis is fully inserted into a vagina, face to face, the organ stimulation points match up whereby a man and woman simultaneously heal each other at every point. In fact, the “insertion method” whereby a man simply inserts his penis into a vagina face to face with little to no movement is recommended to prolong life, health, and emotional connection.

3. The yoni is naturally acidic.

A woman during her reproductive years, has a vaginal pH level of 3.8 to 4.5. A pre-pubescent girl, is pH 7 (neutral) and a menopausal woman has a normal pH level of 6-7. Higher pH levels can make a woman more prone to infection. Sperm, naturally alkaline with a pH level between 7.2 and 7.8, raises the pH level of the vagina. When a woman menstruates each month, she is cleansing. Her blood is pH level 7.34-7.45 – very similar to the pH level of semen. Therefore, sex during menstruation can lead to infection because both blood and semen reduce vaginal acidity.

Prolonged raised pH levels allows bacteria to grow and increases the likelihood of infection – which often occurs with pH levels above 4.5. We are then sold, toxic chemicals, alkaline soaps (often pH levels 9and 10), and bath oils to remedy the problem. However, those alkaline products should be avoided. Sea salt baths are one way to bring the pH level into balance and coconut oil substituting for bath oil works to eliminate bad bacteria.

And, yes, finally, I learned to breathe into and expand my yoni – which was my original assignment. In doing so, I learned yet another thing we don’t talk about. Thank you, Dr. Leidenfrost, for creating a forum where we can talk about it.

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The Great Pause of Menopause

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by Oceana LaBlanc

Many of us who are in menopause now were mothered by women who didn’t talk about or understand it, and were often at the effect of a masculine paradigm and medical system. Most were not wild women, who questioned authority or celebrating their menses.

I was especially clueless. It started with peri-menopause, which I hadn’t even heard of before. I just knew I needed help because suddenly my emotions were riding a tornado without a seat belt. In fact, I almost hospitalized myself, mistaking it for bipolar. Look up the symptoms of both side by side. Identical, uncanny, and misunderstood.

Luckily, a sister shared her journey and discoveries with me. She shared nutritional tips and much information I had never heard. This was my entry into learning, and I was vested with ways to cope, wisdom to carry me through, and knowledge that what I was experiencing was perfectly normal.

Peri-menopause can be a ten year journey with changing symptomology. As wise women, we can dive deeper into the layers of energetics sourcing the symptoms, read the signs, utilize all manner of feminine alchemy to shape shift and shine. We have choices, herbs, holistic awareness, abdominal massage, shamanic support, and the allopathic medical system to choose from.

We might face:

  • grieving the end of fertility
  • loss of libido
  • body is changing dramatically
  • night sweats
  • anxiety attacks
  • sleeplessness
  • moontime totally off schedule
  • extreme uncertainty
  • grieving unmet life desires, lost opportunities
  • loss of energy for what used to come easily

Menopause leaves no patience or tolerance for wasted time or energy. A friend said to me she couldn’t understand why she was so short with everyone lately. The mention of menopause was a complete surprise and relief. We really aren’t taught what to expect!

The fragility of it is stunning. We forget the simplest things and our younger sisters cannot fathom what seems like an intended slight. The truth is we have no recollection.

As a sex educator, it’s difficult to find oneself utterly shut down and going within. But this is what one does and it’s important work, much like labor in birthing.

Many women just don’t want sex and are afraid they never will again. The good news is that menopause is a Great Pause. There are ways to encourage libido, stay juicy, continue to glow. Orgasms are pretty much the best remedy and proactive nutrition, as they keep us expanded in pleasure, keep the blood flowing, reduce stress, encourage circulation, and activate the life force energy. Orgasms keep us glowing. One a day, just like the multivitamin.

Sexuality is alive and well throughout our lifetimes, regardless of what mass media would have us believe. Once you have passed the gateway of menopause, you can let go of the idealized version of sex appeal and welcome a confident, deliciously vulnerable, grace-filled queen who is comfortable in her skin. She exudes warm, calm acceptance and her wisdom is seductively attractive. A Crone is a Confident, Radiant, Orgasmic, Natural Empress.

barAre you longing to deepen your femininity, 

show up in your own blend of Goddess Confidence

and ooze your sensuality inside and out?

 

Oceana Lablanc will nurture you into the sexy, beautiful,

powerful woman you are ready to step into. 

are-you-ready

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About the Author

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Leblanc is a healer, tantric yogini, medium, shaman, and empowerment facilitator. A dynamic facilitator and writer gifted with wisdom, compassion, humor, and keen intuition, she holds frequent workshops and retreats.

She’s led acclaimed trainings at venues such as the Women’s Belly and Womb Conference, Daughters of the Earth Conference, Zestfest, University of Massachusetts Medical School, and Earthcircle Gathering. She is one of the original pioneers building a uniquely grassroots community that supports women’s empowerment globally.

Goddess Oceana defines her mission as being a catalyst for unconditional love and the integration of balance in feminine and masculine energies on the planet in our times. She is passionate about helping people express their highest potential.

Currently she is writing her first book, which is a compilation of her online quotes that have been inspiring readers for years. When she’s not travelling and teaching, her most rewarding time is spent with her gorgeous 13 year old son and beloved husband of 21 years.

“Oceana is one of the most dynamic presenters I have known. She comes from her heart, her passion, and her wisdom. A unique fantastic blend that all will benefit from.” ~Char Tosi, founder of Woman Within

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Sensuality, Pleasure, and A Woman’s Spiritual Fire

sexby Oceana LeBlanc

We don’t hear that much about sensuality or pleasure in the Red Tent Temple. Much of what is spoken is about suffering that women are processing as they heal past wounds and deal with what it is to be a woman in this world. In my work I’ve learned that pleasure is crucial for women, that it’s the gateway to good, gratitude, abundance, love, joy and full self-expression.

Releasing our full radiance and power isn’t possible when we stuff down our passion and fire, and sit on the life force energy that lives in our bellies. When we allow pleasure to infuse us, we unleash the fullness of all that we are, and we’re capable of infinite possibilities, and immeasurable magic!

The top questions I hear are about sex over fifty, lack of desire, and how to attract a lover. Women tell me they either want more sex or less sex than their partners. They fear the loss of libido, or wonder what happened to theirs or if they will ever get it back. Some are just beside themselves trying to find the right partner. Sensuality, intimacy and pleasure are absolutely crucial in the response to all of these queries, but they’re glaringly absent in most people’s vocabulary. Why is this?

Our culture gives pleasure a very bad rap. We’re taught it’s frivolous, to deny it, that it can wait until the work is done. We’ve erased pleasure from our landscape and diminished it to the realm of indulgence, which inherently means unnecessary. The truth is that it’s so crucial to a woman’s life essence and fulfillment that it’s no wonder it was relegated to the back seat. What is necessary for women hasn’t been on the forefront of our radar for 5,000 years! It’s time to change this. Pleasure requires a vulnerable intimacy with life, as does sensuality. They are inextricably interwoven, and our engagement with them is what’s missing for most of us.

So how do we begin? Start by relieving stress so that you feel sexier, or have more sex to relax. Really, you can find pleasure everywhere if you’re looking for it. A gentle breeze, the feel of ice cream on your tongue, a flower in bloom…millions of opportunities for pleasure present themselves every day. Self-pleasure is the surest way to immediate pleasure, and it makes one a much better lover, too.

Intimacy is rooted in vulnerability, which is what we all secretly desire. It’s what cradles us in community, gives us a deep feeling of belonging, and nurtures our spirits. Learning to truly meet someone’s eyes, we begin to allow others in and release judgment. Replacing self-recrimination with self-love, we heal our connections from the inside out, learning to connect on deeper levels. We’re opened up to a more relaxed sensuality where our inhibitions fall away and we’re more fully present, open to pleasure and deeply connected with others.

When we embrace sensual pleasure, our life force is unbound and our power to create the magic we desire is limitless. This is the secret about women that has been hidden and squashed for so long. We are absolutely divinely embodied creatures whose time to shine has finally come.

 

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Are you longing to deepen your femininity, 

show up in your own blend of Goddess Confidence

and ooze your sensuality inside and out?

 

Oceana Lablanc will nurture you into the sexy, beautiful,

powerful woman you are ready to step into. 

are-you-ready

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About the Author

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Leblanc is a healer, tantric yogini, medium, shaman, and empowerment facilitator. A dynamic facilitator and writer gifted with wisdom, compassion, humor, and keen intuition, she holds frequent workshops and retreats.

She’s led acclaimed trainings at venues such as the Women’s Belly and Womb Conference, Daughters of the Earth Conference, Zestfest, University of Massachusetts Medical School, and Earthcircle Gathering. She is one of the original pioneers building a uniquely grassroots community that supports women’s empowerment globally.

Goddess Oceana defines her mission as being a catalyst for unconditional love and the integration of balance in feminine and masculine energies on the planet in our times. She is passionate about helping people express their highest potential.

Currently she is writing her first book, which is a compilation of her online quotes that have been inspiring readers for years. When she’s not travelling and teaching, her most rewarding time is spent with her gorgeous 13 year old son and beloved husband of 21 years.

“Oceana is one of the most dynamic presenters I have known. She comes from her heart, her passion, and her wisdom. A unique fantastic blend that all will benefit from.” ~Char Tosi, founder of Woman Within

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A Woman’s Immense Power

sexby Oceana Leblanc

When you invite pleasure into your daily life, it’s a game changer. The feminine requires it, is opened to a greater alchemy, and begins to align with the synchronicity of creation in surprising ways. All of life celebrates the unfoldment of a woman’s pleasure. We were built for it as reflections of a great feminine force whose ignition is our pleasure as the ritual of our erotic essence.

I know this is a mouthful! Allow me to break it down for you. We have an organ whose sole purpose is pleasure, our clitoris. We reflect the aspect of Divinity (Life Force Energy) that is feminine, called Shakti. We’re awakening to our liberation after 5,000 years of oppression on this planet because our power was so deeply feared. The connection of women to their ignition switch, pleasure, is so down-played and disdained in the collective psyche that we’ve been missing it completely.

What you might notice on the path of pleasure is that most major patriarchal religions teach that pleasure is a no-no. Remember that men wrote the scripts on these religions. We’re warned that pleasure is a base, lower energy, superfluous engagement that will steer us away from our high spiritual aspirations. I imagine that a culture that has experienced the sweet, erotic power of a woman’s pleasure and been hypnotized thoroughly by it would have no other choice in overcoming it than forbidding it’s existence. How else would it aspire to overpower or control such a colossal force?

Men have fought wars over it, climbed mountains because of it, given their lives for it, cut off their own ears about it. It seduces them into all manner of compliance, regardless of their initial intentions. It is a power so magnificent, so breathtakingly divine, that it had to be oppressed to be controlled. This, women, is my take on why women have been so utterly crushed into submission for thousands of years.

I urge women to fall in love with themselves and their bodies. The feminine form is a gorgeous manifestation of the feminine life force, and when we can truly appreciate this and love ourselves fully and deeply, we elicit the same response from others. We also begin to tap into our pleasure, uncorking waves of energetic gratitude, and once that is pulsating in orgasmic ecstasy, we have a wide open channel upon which to place our desires in the universal take out window.

We are the embodiment, the living Goddess, walking the earth, and when we realize the tremendous power and gravity of our potential, we will no longer have to fight for our liberation. We’ll see with clear eyes and pure hearts the path that lay before us, one of equanimity, peace, joy, and yes, pleasure.

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Are you longing to deepen your femininity, 

show up in your own blend of Goddess Confidence

and ooze your sensuality inside and out?

 

Oceana Lablanc will nurture you into the sexy, beautiful,

powerful woman you are ready to step into. 

are-you-ready

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About the Author

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Lablanc

Oceana Leblanc is a healer, tantric yogini, medium, shaman, and empowerment facilitator. A dynamic facilitator and writer gifted with wisdom, compassion, humor, and keen intuition, she holds frequent workshops and retreats.

She’s led acclaimed trainings at venues such as the Women’s Belly and Womb Conference, Daughters of the Earth Conference, Zestfest, University of Massachusetts Medical School, and Earthcircle Gathering. She is one of the original pioneers building a uniquely grassroots community that supports women’s empowerment globally.

Goddess Oceana defines her mission as being a catalyst for unconditional love and the integration of balance in feminine and masculine energies on the planet in our times. She is passionate about helping people express their highest potential.

Currently she is writing her first book, which is a compilation of her online quotes that have been inspiring readers for years. When she’s not travelling and teaching, her most rewarding time is spent with her gorgeous 13 year old son and beloved husband of 21 years.

“Oceana is one of the most dynamic presenters I have known. She comes from her heart, her passion, and her wisdom. A unique fantastic blend that all will benefit from.” ~Char Tosi, founder of Woman Within

 

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